According to the Oxford dictionary, the word sex means sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse. Back in the day, sex was valued as the height of love between two people especially those who were married. But today, sex has become so common that it almost seems like it has lost all its values in the 21st century?
The importance of sex in any relationship is key but with the fast and/or high rate at which young people have sexual intercourse these days, our parents even wonder if sex still holds any form of value in this generation.
My mother tells me in her days sex was not so easily gotten. Weeks, if not months would go by without the man getting to see a lady’s pants, talk less taking it off. But today, she says girls even get pregnant at 9 when it’s not a case of rape.
Theodore, a 25 year old student at the University of Buea tells me “Sex means nothing these days. Girls would give themselves so cheaply to any guy who has a little money, drives a car or even just smiles at them in a restaurant.”
His words were very worrisome to me and I asked him if he was still a virgin. “Hell no,” he replied. “Why would I be a virgin at University? Does that even make sense for a boy to keep his virginity in such a free environment?”
Another question which got me thinking, is it a taboo for a university student to be a virgin? “If I don’t have all the sex in the world as a university student or as a young man then when do you think I should?” Theodore asked me.
But should sex even be important or valuable among youths?
Theo says, “I doubt if sex would ever be of value. Why, because everyone can have sex today. Even daughters who are been caged at home can end up getting pregnant, be affected with several sexually transmitted diseases or be infected with HIV. This is just because they get too excited to get what they’ve been deprived of by their so-called strict parents.”
Can parents now make sex valuable again in this generation?
My young friend tells me, “I really doubt it. Parents have to an extent lost control over what their kids should or shouldn’t do or say. So to say they can try to make the same children value sex is really far-fetched. All they have to do, and that goes to teachers and nannies, is to provide sex education to their children. Whether or not they listen is all up to the children and not the parents.”
The 25-year-old old then adds, “Sex should be respected because it’s something held of value among the married people. But to celibates, it’s just something you get here and there.”
As matter of fact, Theodore made his points like any other young male or female and I did respect his opinion. However, I still believe something could be done on how common sex has become and to me, those to instill these teachings among children are the “children” themselves. Ask yourself the questions, tell yourself the truth and try to do the right thing at the right time with the right person not PERSONS.
Joan
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