I’ve always wondered if sex should have rules but as the days, weeks, months and years go by, I think there are basic rules of sex everyone should know. Like I told BBC’s Bola Musoro back in July 2016, “Sex is an art and for you to enjoy it, you need to be creative.” This simply means, the act of sex has its own guidelines which if followed, could lead me or you to ecstasy.
I’ve come up with few guiding principles of sex everybody has to know about.
1. Love sex to have sex:
Even for those about to have sex for the first time, they should have had an idea of how lovely it is before been lured into it. “Sex is a good thing,” Fally Ipupa tells Pulse TV and I agree because you can only like/love something to want to have it or continue having it.
2. Don’t be in a rush. Be sure:
Nobody should be forced to have sex and no one should force you to have sex when you don’t want to. As much as I love quickies, taking my time and making up my mind to have sex is an amazing experience. I get to fantasize or even plan things in my head which most times don’t happen but I don’t mind. Bottom line, take your time and be sure it’s what you want to do it, when, where, how and with whom.
3. Go with your gut feelings:
Sex can never be satisfactory if you were not sure it’s what you really wanted to do. It should not be treated like a sideline project… something to do just because I don’t have any other thing to do. No! Go with your feelings so that you can be in the moment to make every second count and memorable. Sex should leave you with a feeling you don’t want to ever forget.
4. Fuck hard, if you can
Gone are the boring days of “old school sex” aka missionary style. Nowadays, sex is spontaneous, exciting, quick and fast. My generation believes sex doesn’t have to last 2 hours before its great. A quickie could provide same satisfaction as an hour of love making. So why waste the time you don’t even have? Go fast, hard and… rough if you can. So long as that’s what you want.
5. Never think of tragedies:
Why think of your dead relatives, the accident you almost had, the neighbor who beat up his wife that morning, the worst advice your dad gave you on his dying bed, the stress at work and so on while having sex? Are you nuts!? Get over that stupid thought and enjoy the moment! Many can’t have sex because they are going through hell! So enjoy it while you can!
Sex was made to satisfy, so don’t dull!
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